Tuesday, May 12, 2015

Week Two: A Godly Woman Who Can Find?

Ah Godly actions. Every day we wake up, we know we want to be more like Christ....more like the Bible says we should be. We have already touched on the idea that being a Godly woman begins with our hearts and mindset:

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. --Romans 12:2

But even knowing this, Godly actions daily can seem so difficult! 

One reason it seems so insurmountable is that first, we don't know exactly what we are called to do and second, we haven't broken this calling down into "bite size" pieces. Today, this week, we will cover six areas of Godly womanhood: daily tasks, mission tasks, treatment of family and others, how we are to dress and carry ourselves, relationship with our husbands and relationship with God. 

Our Daily Calling

The Bible tells us to be homemakers, raisers and discipliners of our children, and supporters of our husbands. Nowhere does the Bible say we must not work outside of our homes, but it is clear about where our priorities should be. Titus 2:3-5 is very clear about not only our daily tasks, but how we are to learn these:

The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

Proverbs 31 goes into great length about the daily tasks of a Godly woman: gardening, sewing, cooking, making items by hand, helps the poor, cares for her body and the health of her family, keeps her home neat and lovely, makes and sells items, is never idle and studies intensely. 

Let's take a moment to compare this to our current daily tasks with this list that God has given us. Many of these tasks are on our lists already, some probably aren't. Remember that God calls us to not have a perfect life or home, but to live with purpose. Keep our priorities straight.

Do not feel overwhelmed or inadequate! We still have five more sections to go and God empowers to do all things when we call on him!

A Call to the Mission Field

Well reported of for good works; if she have brought up children, if she have lodged strangers, if she have washed the saints' feet, if she have relieved the afflicted, if she have diligently followed every good work. --1 Timothy 5:10

God calls us to ministry. To provide hospitality, to instruct and mentor other women, to be a service to those in need but never neglect our home and family. 

There are so many ways to do this! Offer to babysit for another mother, host a bbq or ice cream party at our homes, hold a Bible study, help to tutor a struggling child. Be involved in our church and ministries in that aspect when possible. Let us not forget the very young, the orphaned and the very old. They are often the most needy and the most overlooked. Nursing homes love to have visiting children and special treats. A hospital NICU has a program called "Baby Cuddlers" and there is always a need for foster parents or donations to shelters. The opportunities are endless, we just need to ask God to use us as he sees fit. 

Interacting with Our Family, Children and Others

Lo, children are an heritage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.
Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate. --Psalm 127:3-5

One of my favorite verses! It is so clear how we are to think of our children and thereby treat them. They are a gift, a blessing and should be treated as such! They need to be guided and disciplined with patience, wisdom and kindness. They need to be loved and valued....to see a self controlled mother. We are the example our children will look to, let us be a good example!

Likewise, our treatment of our extended family, friends and others needs to be from a heart of love. Self control is so important in this area because in an age of instantaneous conversation across oceans, we must must must keep in mind compassion and kindness! We are called to instruct and mentor other women, the best way to do this is to be the example. 

Ladies, we also must remember: we are NOT instructed to be teachers to men. 1 Timothy 2:11-15

Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.
But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.
For Adam was first formed, then Eve.
And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.
Notwithstanding she shall be saved in childbearing, if they continue in faith and charity and holiness with sobriety.

It will be hard at times to remain silent...pray! Pray for self control and pray for the man you wish to instruct. God is his instructor as are the men of the church. Pray they intervene and guide him.

Respectable Attire and Attitude

In this section I will not tell you to wear skirts. I will not tell you that if you do you are closer to God or that pants are the Devil's creation. What I will say is that we were created as Woman. This gender is important outside of social concepts as we have already seen. We are blessed to be female and we should embrace that! Taking a few moments for ourselves is not wrong.

Titus 2, Proverbs 31 and 1 Timothy 2 all discuss what modesty looks like for women.

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array --1 Timothy 2:9

We are to be presentable, respectable, and practical. Never overly adorned, dressing to please others or immodestly. 

Modesty is such a touchy subject for many so I'll try to make this simple. If you wouldn't want to wear something up in front of your church, don't wear it out and about. If your husband would object, don't wear it. If there is a verse that directly addresses this, follow what God says. Maintain purity for both yourself and those around you.

Relationship with Our Husbands

Another touchy subject at times, I will preface this by saying: God calls our husbands to be Biblical men. Both husband and wife working in the same direction, towards God, is deeply important to a marriage.

We are called to submit to our husbands

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. --Colossians 3:18

What does submission mean exactly? What does it look like? Thankfully, God provides us some answers

Ephesians 5:22-24
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
1 Peter gives a longer explanation even (verses 1-22):

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:
Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.
For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile:
Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.
For the eyes of the Lord are over the righteous, and his ears are open unto their prayers: but the face of the Lord is against them that do evil.
And who is he that will harm you, if ye be followers of that which is good?
But and if ye suffer for righteousness' sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled;
But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:
Having a good conscience; that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ.
For it is better, if the will of God be so, that ye suffer for well doing, than for evil doing.
For Christ also hath once suffered for sins, the just for the unjust, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh, but quickened by the Spirit:
By which also he went and preached unto the spirits in prison;
Which sometime were disobedient, when once the longsuffering of God waited in the days of Noah, while the ark was a preparing, wherein few, that is, eight souls were saved by water.
The like figure whereunto even baptism doth also now save us (not the putting away of the filth of the flesh, but the answer of a good conscience toward God,) by the resurrection of Jesus Christ:
Who is gone into heaven, and is on the right hand of God; angels and authorities and powers being made subject unto him.

Not all of us are blessed with Biblical men as husbands....some of us may not even be married to a man who believes in God, the best option for us is to be the example. To be what God has called us to be, especially in how we treat our husbands.

Our Relationship with God

Our last topic. How much time do we actually devote to this area? How much time do we actually spend praising him, not just asking for his help? How much time do we spend immersed in him?

We are told in John 6:55-59

For my flesh is meat indeed, and my blood is drink indeed.
He that eateth my flesh, and drinketh my blood, dwelleth in me, and I in him.
As the living Father hath sent me, and I live by the Father: so he that eateth me, even he shall live by me.
This is that bread which came down from heaven: not as your fathers did eat manna, and are dead: he that eateth of this bread shall live for ever.
These things said he in the synagogue, as he taught in Capernaum.

and in James 4:6-10

But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.
Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.
Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness.
Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.

With this as our guide, we can see that we are supposed to turn to God as our comfort, our teacher, our food for our soul. We cannot live without food or water, how is it that we manage to live without nourishing our relationship with God?

As I draw this post to a close, ladies, I hope you feel encouraged! I hope this will help us all to set our priorities and stay committed. This week, take a moment to write up a list of what God calls us to do and compare it to what we have been doing. Take a moment to look at all the things we think we have to do. How do these align with what God tells us? Maybe, dear sisters, it is time for us to simplify, to draw closer to God and to re-prioritize our days and lives. 

Much love to you all and blessings in this week!


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1 comment:

  1. Good morning Audrey. I appreciate these biblical reminders, ideas and encouragement! Thank you for sharing this on the Art of Home-Making Mondays!