Sunday, June 07, 2015

Week Five: The Husband

Welcome to another Bible study ladies! As we begin, pray for your mindset. Pray for understanding and the other ladies participating in this study. 

Then read Proverbs 31:10-31

10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

 Edward Leighton

When you have finished reading, go back through and mark all the references to her husband with a blue pencil or pen. Take notes on every reference and what you have gathered about the relationship of the Proverbs 31 Woman and her husband. 

Now let us examine verse 11 and what the husband thinks of her:

11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

Using different translations allows us to see many insights. Take notes to record your new understanding of this verse's meaning. 

Next we will take a look at the word spoil and note the military connotations. Several of the words we have already come across have military definitions. To help us keep track, label a page in your notebook and record the words as well as their verses. Today we will add our first: spoil.

Skim through other verses in the Bible that use this word as well. As you read, record your observations and thoughts keeping these questions in mind:

What is spoil?
How is it gained?
How is it gained?
What things are included?
Who gains it?
How might this image relate to the wife's role in her husband's life?
How does it relate to his ability to trust her?

Harry Anderson

Taking a look at the commentaries for this verse, pay particular attention to Matthew Henry's.

Specifically looking at the following text:

"II. The caution she gives him against those two destroying sins of uncleanness and drunkenness, which, if he allowed himself in them, would certainly be his ruin. 1. Against uncleanness (v. 3): Give not thy strength unto women, unto strange women. He must not be soft and effeminate, nor spend that time in a vain conversation with the ladies which should be spent in getting knowledge and despatching business, nor employ that wit (which is the strength of the soul) in courting and complimenting them which he should employ about the affairs of his government. "Especially shun all adultery, fornication, and lasciviousness, which waste the strength of the body, and bring into it dangerous diseases. Give not thy ways, thy affections, thy conversation, to that which destroys kings, which has destroyed many, which gave such a shock to the kingdom even of David himself, in the matter of Uriah. Let the sufferings of others be thy warnings.' It lessens the honour of kings and makes them mean. Are those fit to govern others that are themselves slaves to their own lusts? It makes them unfit for business, and fills their court with the basest and worst of animals. Kings lie exposed to temptations of this kind, having wherewith both to please the humours and to bear the charges of the sin, and therefore they ought to double their guard; and, if they would preserve their people from the unclean spirit, they must themselves be patterns of purity. Meaner people may also apply it to themselves. Let none give their strength to that which destroys souls. 2. Against drunkenness, v. 4, 5. He must not drink wine or strong drink to excess; he must never sit to drink, as they used to do in the day of their king, when the princes made him sick with bottles of wine, Hos. 7:7. Whatever temptation he might be in from the excellency of the wine, or the charms of the company, he must deny himself, and be strictly sober, considering, (1.) The indecency of drunkenness in a king. However some may call it a fashionable accomplishment and entertainment, it is not for kings, O Lemuel! it is not for kings, to allow themselves that liberty; it is a disparagement to their dignity, and profanes their crown, by confusing the head that wears it; that which for the time unmans them does for the time unking them. Shall we say, They are gods? No, they are worse than the beasts that perish. All Christians are made to our God kings and priests, and must apply this to themselves. It is not for Christians, it is not for Christians, to drink to excess; they debase themselves if they do; it ill becomes the heirs of the kingdom and the spiritual priests, Lev. 10:9. (2.) The ill consequences of it (v. 5): Lest they drink away their understandings and memories, drink and forget the law by which they are to govern; and so, instead of doing good with their power, do hurt with it, and pervert or alter the judgment of all the sons of affliction, and, when they should right them, wrong them, and add to their affliction. It is a sad complaint which is made of the priests and prophets (Isa. 28:7), that they have erred through wine, and through strong drink they are out of the way; and the effect is as bad in kings, who when they are drunk, or intoxicated with the love of wine, cannot but stumble in judgment. Judges must have clear heads, which those cannot have who so often make themselves giddy, and incapacitate themselves to judge of the most common things. "

Ferdinand Georg Waldmüller 

Points 1 and 2 refer to verse 11 and will give you an even better understanding and how it relates to our lives. Take a few notes in your notebook as you read.

This woman's husband trust her; he safely trusts her as she has given him no reason to mistrust her. She blesses him and fully enables him to pursue his God given callings and relationship with Christ.

As we close in prayer, ponder: Is God calling you to change the way you think or act in relation to Him and to your husband?

Jessie Wilcox Smith


With Our Children

Read Proverbs 31:11 with your children 

11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

Talk about the many ways a wife might earn her husband's trust. Explain to them what you have learned about a husband having no need of spoil.

Then spend the day making a special surprise with your children. Show them how to clean the home and set the table. Have them gather pretty flowers and make a centerpiece. Help them to make your husband's favorite meal. Have them pick out lovely outfits and be freshly cleaned and dressed upon his arrival. Cheerfully welcome him and show him his favorite chair. Bring him a refreshing drink and a book to relax with. (If you have musical children, allow them to play background music or a short program. Your artistic children might desire to make cards.)

Have a blessed Sunday,


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