What is it about you that is so complicated?
Before I get further into this topic, take a moment to read my previous post here.
Routines should work for you.
They should be specific to you.
You should not worry what anyone else is doing.
Once you have those three things in mind, you are golden and can work on writing out your own.
Before you start, try to clear your mind--write down everything that is bothering you and put it off to the side.
Find some quiet space, maybe wait until the children are asleep or consider talking with your husband about taking a "Mama Day" once a week. Head to a coffee shop, the library or other favorite place alone with your laptop and notebooks to work on your schedule, menu, shopping list and whatever else you may need to get done.
Use what helps you! I love colored pencils, calendars, plain notebooks and sticky notes to help me organize. Do what works for you. If you haven't tried this process before, consider trying a few different strategies. Grab a store bought organizer, some different sized notebooks, calendars, note cards, whatever you think may help you! The dollar store is a great place to look for these!
Do another brain dump: jot down the things you want to get done daily and weekly. Write down activities, household maintenance requirements, church commitments and anything else going on in your life. Now is a great time to see where you could scale back.
Then get to work putting your routine together in a way that works for you.
Love sticky notes? Pick one color for daily activities, another for weekly, and another for monthly. You can do this with colored pens or pencils as well.
Like using a notebook instead of a calendar? Experiment with columns, boxes, flow charts, time slots, whatever you come up with!
Most importantly, have fun. Give yourself at least 3 weeks to get into the swing of a new routine. Don't be discouraged if your first try doesn't quite work. Go back to the drawing board, tweak and try again.